Learning that your partner is pregnant can bring up many emotions and questions. Whether the pregnancy was planned or unexpected, it is a significant moment for both of you.
It’s normal to feel unsure about your role. While you can’t go through the pregnancy yourself, you can still help her feel supported. By asking questions, being there for her, and learning about your options together, you can really make a difference.
At Arise Center for Women, we welcome partners. Schedule a no-cost, private appointment to get the information you both need as you consider your next steps.
Start by Listening
One of the most supportive things you can do is listen. Your partner may be processing a wide range of emotions, and she may not have all the answers right away.
Instead of offering solutions immediately, try asking open-ended questions:
- How are you feeling about the pregnancy?
- What’s on your mind at the moment?
- What would be most useful to you?
Listening without judgement helps her feel heard and gives you a much clearer idea of how best to support her.
Be Present for Appointments
Support often starts with simply being there. Ask whether she would like you to come with her to her pregnancy testing appointment and any follow-up visits. If she would prefer to go on her own, respect her choice.
If you do attend, listen carefully, let her ask her questions first, and consider writing down any questions you have. Afterward, talking through what you learned can help you both make decisions from the same set of facts.
Small actions like these show her she is not facing this alone.
Why an Ultrasound Matters
If her pregnancy test at our center is positive, she may be offered a no-cost limited obstetric ultrasound, performed by an RN and a sonographer.
An ultrasound can show whether the pregnancy is progressing with a detectable heartbeat, how far along she is, and whether the pregnancy is located in the uterus. This information gives you a clearer picture of her health and the pregnancy before you make important decisions.
Support for You, Too
Supporting your partner doesn’t mean you have to set your own feelings aside. It is normal to have questions and concerns of your own.
Through our Fatherhood Program, Arise Center for Women connects men with male mentors who understand what you are going through. In a confidential, judgment-free setting, mentors can talk with you about topics such as parenting skills, healthy relationships, co-parenting, and personal growth.
Take the Next Step Together
You don’t need to have everything figured out to start. Our team is here to answer your questions and help you both understand your options.
Schedule a no-cost, private appointment by calling 314.894.9800 or texting 314.856.2115. Walk-ins are also welcome on weekdays.
